Living the british atmosphere in Egypt ❤.
thank you @fadyfooz for this one hell of a shoot 🎈 [...]
في كل مكان كل صباح عِش عالمك الخاص، أُكتب ما تحب وكن ما تريد، إعجاب الأخرين بك لا يساوي شيئاً إن لم تُعجب أنت بنفسك. (at New Cairo) [...]
تُصبحون علي خير لِي ولكم ولكل شخص يضع في قرارة نفسه أنَّه يستحِق يوم جميل ولا يأبه بمعكرات المزاج. 😌☕️ [...]
ابدأي بخطط جديدة، ولا تجعلي أشياء عابرة تحطم معنوياتك وتقطع طريقك.. [...]
The other week I got a message from an old friend Dian Pelangi (most of you will know her, a very successful Indonesian Fashion designer.) She very kindly invited me to her show in Paris in order to show my support and have a general catch up! It’s been a few years since we saw each other last! There was about four days left for the show and usually this is too short notice for me to travel what with having a toddler and meetings booked weeks in advance. Originally I was busy the day she would showcase so I politely declined, but was pretty gutted to miss it. Thankfully a few days later my original plans were cancelled and I’m not sure what I’d been eating but I decided to message Dian there and then to let her know that I could now make it! Bear in mind this was literally the night before her show, and for me that’s pretty last minute! I was only planning on going for a quick day trip on the eurostar and decided to bring my younger bro Hassan to keep me company, he’s a pretty LIT lad. LOL
Anyway we ended up missing our original train so decided spontaneously to stay the night in Paris, with no clothes or fresh undies never mind a toothbrush for the next day! Usually the thought of that is an absolute horror to me but for some reason, I literally thought nothing of it. I say ‘some reason’ but I know the reason of course. It’s because I wasn’t taking Hana (my two year old) with me! She was fine at home with her dad and taking care of just myself for one night seemed a breeze, as opposed to taking care of both of us! Suddenly all the usual dilemmas seemed actually pretty trivial when you don’t have to do them with your kid! Whilst becoming a parent has sent me over the edge with paranoia, made me fuss over anything and staying the night anywhere would mean at least a small suitcase filled with everything we need, it’s also left me quite spontaneous when it comes to doing things without my kid. And actually I’ve realised that sometimes it better to just let go of the little things and deal with whatever happens there and then rather than plan every little detail to a T. The fun will still be had! Any other mamas out there notice this change of attitude since becoming a mum? [...]
Most of you will be familiar with my rants every now and then, be it in vlogs, instagram captions or a little write up, and now I’m about to embark on another little bit of controversy regarding men, right here on this page. BTW I only say ‘controversy’ because people seem to get very sensitive when you call men out, particularly Muslim men but that’s a whole other post in itself. I do understand that my work means being exposed to a massive amount of people that most are not used to as part of their daily life and of course naturally I will come across absurd comments, opinions and just strange things in general. I get that people have a sense of entitlement to comment on my personal choices, more specifically my own personal ‘religiosity’ and pretty much anything that I am well aware I have shared online. Usually with the reasoning that I am a blogger and am therefore ‘asking for it’ or ‘if you can’t handle criticism then don’t put yourself out there.’ Basically just expecting me to accept disgusting behaviour and tolerate hate that in no other work place would anyone be expected to condone. TBH it actually doesn’t affect me at all when I do receive terribly strange comments or abuse online, I’ve grown way past that and thankfully the positive outweighs the bad immensely.. so obvs that helps.
What does grind my gears is where opinions on the way I dress can sometimes come from. For some baffling reason, a lot of the time it just so happens to come from Muslim MEN. Why? Simply why? Why do a HUGE amount of Muslim men have this sense of entitlement to share their opinion on how a woman, who bear in mind has NOTHING to do with them, dresses. Let alone females related to them? I seriously don’t understand the logic. Actually never mind the logic, how about the utter disrespect not just to the strange women that never once asked for this irrelevant mans opinion on her hijab or ‘lack of it.’ But the disrespect towards the women in their lives? Some of these guys are married, with kids. You’d think with all the responsibilities that Muslim men have when they have their OWN family that they simply would not have the time to even THINK about another woman and how ‘acceptable’ her expression in clothing is? It’s actually absurd if you think about it. Without going into too much of a waffle, I’d just like to emphasise how horrified I would be if my husband was so interested in how a fellow modest blogger dressed that he went out of his way to address it to that woman, and on a public platform! FYI don’t be fooled either ladies by the positive tones that some of these guys may use and the fact that their intention is ALWAYS from a good place.. they’re just trying to save other ‘women from falling down the wrong path.’ I mean what is this God-like attitude that guys have when it comes to religion and the idea that they’re the saviour of the youth?? WHO ARE YOU KIDDING MATE? Another form of disguise that these men will use is giving back handed compliments to the woman that they’re ‘advising.’ As if we need affirmation from some random Muslim guy who is adamant that we need help from him and his five years of learning at some Islamic class in a mosque in East London somewhere! Sometimes I think bruh, why don’t you just go tell my dad if you really want to do things properly? Oh, and what about my husband? He’s older than you, knows me more than anyone else on this planet, yet you still think that I need validation or advice from some jumped up ex wannabe road-man NON MAHRAM Muslim guy that found a bit of fame from posing as the ‘cool sheikh for the youth’ online? Never mind the assumptions they have in regards to why we do whatever it is they feel so condemned to comment on. Or the assumptions that we haven’t been raised well enough clearly, otherwise they wouldn’t feel so compelled to comment. Or the assumptions that we’re ‘lost’ and we need guidance, or the assumption that we’ve never studied Islam ourselves, right??
UGHHHHH, It actually makes me sick.
Listen ladies, this post is for you more than anyone, especially the younger girls that watch me or read my posts. It’s so easy to get sucked into and believe in a ‘religious persona’ especially when it’s a guy who’s relatable, young and used to be a ‘bad man’ but changed recently. Don’t get sucked in, trust me most of these men are clueless when it comes to Islam. The way they’re addressing things even if it sounds positive, there will always be an underlying tone of misogyny and aggression or sense of power. It is not the attitude a genuine practising Muslim man should be carrying. Most of the time just the delivery of their message is just enforcing the idea to you the young female audience, that Muslim women are under the thumb of a man and that we constantly need validation from them.
Just know that you don’t. You have your own mind.
Think about things freely. Free from the way you’ve been taught, if the way you’ve been taught respects men more than women. Literally open your eyes to whats around you and question everything, our generation and our kids will be the ones to make the changes, we will be the ones to take control of our future without the subconscious manipulation that is constantly used by men of our religion, that comes from a sense of entitlement, power trips and religious abuse, that we as a community are constantly excusing and allowing.
DON’T ALLOW IT ANYMORE. [...]
I’ve just sneaked off away from my little one to my small work space upstairs, while she entertains herself with a puzzle so I can talk to you guys a little bit about my latest project..
MODESTLY my Book. Yes Mama I’m officially an author, something I never thought I could say!
Much like now, the last two years or more have involved me sneaking away to write and plan and write and plan, re write, scrap and plan again, contemplate, sometimes cry, sometimes get really frustrated about writing and so on. Until finally about two months ago I could take a huge breath of relief and submit my final write up of the book.
In case you didn’t know, last week I announced the release of my book MODESTLY and after so much secrecy and work behind the scenes, I can finally share it with you all. Although the official release date is not until September 20th 2018.. the support that you guys have shown so far has been actually breathtaking and to say that I’ve been overwhelmed over the weekend is an understatement. It is available to pre order now on Amazon via the below link which is super exciting for me to see!
Of course come September you’ll be able to pick it up at your local bookstores nationwide as well. There will also be opportunities to get a signed copy and come along to meet & greets / signings and potentially some events but do not fear as I shall surely keep you updated on all of that over the next few months!
MODESTLY is a book about me, my life, from the beginning to now. All of my teenage tribulations, awkward adolescent problems, how I eventually came to blog and create conversation around Muslim women by just living as one myself. Modesty has always been the common factor in certain stages of my life but it’s also about how my perception of Modesty has changed and progressed with my personal journey. My hope for this book is ultimately for it to be a relatable and real experience for the reader, any reader, not just a Muslim one either, with a little bit of fashion/beauty/relationship and family guidance as well…
It’s kind of weird but I literally feel like this book is another baby of mine, I guess the two years it took to complete has got me feeling some type of way hey! I just hope that you guys benefit from this and ‘get it’ if you know what I mean, I just want you to get me. Does that make sense? It almost feels like an end of an era, I’ve been blogging and being online or whatever you call it nowadays for close to ten years and this is by far my biggest and most rewarding achievement. Of course I still have ambition for other ideas and goals that I want to work on, I want to keep growing, progressing and changing with you all but, considering that writing a book was never a plan of mine until I was approached to do one… it’s kind of amazing to see the opportunities that life can throw at you. It’s kind of amazing to see how things turn out, no matter how much you might plan or try and control your destiny.
Okay this is borderline cheesy and is making me nauseous (I’m 38 weeks pregnant today so that’s probably why hah).
Anyway I’m going to love ya and leave ya, seeing as it’s you guys that I have to thank for me even getting this opportunity. You guys are the ones who’ve supported and followed and shown your loyalty no matter my changes and growth, even if you haven’t agreed with everything I do, the support is still there. This is a thank you to all of you who enjoy my work and enjoy me for who I am, not for how I look or even for how I dress, but for just being me. Because regardless of everything, that really is all anyone ever wants, to be accepted for who they truly are.
Here are some behind the scenes images of the final cover shoot attempt that we did whilst I was six months pregnant, did I hide it well on the cover of the book?
Hi guys, welcome to the introduction of my 4 part series exploring #YourAverageMuslim. A short series I’ve ben working on for a while now as my work as an ambassador for the Creators For Change programme run by Youtube.
I’m pretty tired of constantly being praised for ‘breaking the stereotype’ just because I’m a Muslim woman who happens to be successful. This should be the NORM! There are so many of us that are not given media attention for what we do without it being connected to our faith in some way or other. We are so much more than just breaking a stereotype. If we change the way we’re represented then the more likely we will be seen for what we truly are, successful, determined and most importantly decent people who come from a diverse multi talented background. #YouAverageMuslim is all of these brilliant characteristics. I really hope you guys LOVE this series and I hope to do more with it because I know there are brilliant Muslims doing great things just because it’s who they are! Please SHARE your story using the same hashtag #YourAverageMuslim on all social media platforms and ReClaim your narrative!
There is no one that can represent YOU better than yourself.
You can watch my Full 4 Part series #YourAverageMuslim below:
Episode 4 [...]